I don’t know about you, but I didn’t just wake up one day and say to myself, “Oh. Hey! I think I’ll be gay today.” Sorry folks. Doesn’t work that way. I’ve known that I was attracted to men for as long as I can remember. I remember in kindergarten being really attracted to another male student. Of course it would be another eight years before I knew what to do with another guy that I was attracted to, but still, from that early age I was absolutely crystal clear as to what attracted me.
As Lady Gaga sang, “I was born this way.” While for some people who are not at one end of the Kinsey scale or the other to some degree find both men and women appealing, for me, firmly planted on the end of the scale, I was born gay, I am gay, I will always be gay. And I am damned proud of who I am. And since being gay is an integral part of my identity, I can assure you that I am absolutely proud about being gay. The more someone tries to tell me its wrong, the more out and loud and proud I will be. It might be wrong for them, but we’re not talking about them – we’re talking about me – and the only one who gets to decide about me and define me is ME!
The last year has seen many big name people come out of the closet, including, most recently Anderson Cooper of CNN. Personally, I never had any doubt that the man was gay and I was just waiting for him to step up and say what I already knew. So I was absolutely delighted when he wrote to Andrew Sullivan, “The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself and proud. I have always been very open and honest about this part of my life with my friends, my family, and my colleagues. In a perfect world, I don’t think it’s anyone ease’s business, but I do think there is value in standing up and being counted. I’m not an activist, but I am a human being and I don’t give that up by being a journalist.”
Others who have come out in recent memory include Matt Bomer, who co-stars with Channing Tatum and Matthew McConaughey in Magic Mike, the story of a troop of male strippers in Tampa, Florida. Neil Patrick Harris has been out for a long time and it has done not one iota of harm to his career or reputation. Zachary Quinto publicly came out in the fall of 2011.
Until I write something more substantive of my own, I refer you to my good friend James Erich and his excellent page of thoughts on being gay and I also recommend that you read Brent Hartinger’s page on Being Gay. Both are excellent articles.
Answers to Your Questions: For a Better Understanding of Sexual Orientation & Homosexuality (American Psychological Association)
Just the Facts About Sexual Orientation – A Primer (This resource is targeted to high school administrators)